You can insist all you want that youre going to be exactly the same once youre dating again Sunday brunch with the girls? Of course! Clubbing on Friday night? Why not?
But you know thats all a lie. Any time you add a major new element to your life, things are going to change. Its the inevitable, you start to plan your life around whatever new element has been added to it.
Here are the reasons why a relationship will a change you:
1. You have less time to spread around.
Its a simple fact: there are only so many hours in the day. If you add a new person to the mix, theres less time for everything, and everyone, else.
Youre going to want to spend more time with your SO and as a result less time with your friends, less time on yourself and less time getting things done.
2. You no longer have as much time to focus on yourself.
Maybe youve gotten into some really awesome routines while single, but some of that will fall by the wayside. Hopefully you dont lose sight of your goals, and plans, just because you have someone else around now.
3. You cant be unabashedly selfish.
Its not just about you anymore. You have a partner, and you have to consider their needs and feelings.
Gone are the days of always doing what you want, when you want, exactly how you want. Its just not feasible when youre with someone. Sorry.
4. You have to compromise.
Sure, you already compromise with friends and family, but its not the same. Youll be spending a lot of time with your SO, and you wont always get to do what you want.
Youre going to have to engage in some activities that dont interest you to make them happy; youre also going to have to meet in the middle on a lot of decisions. Youll have to agree to disagree.Adulting, right?
5. It forces you out of your comfort zone.
Its really easy to get super comfortable being single.
When youre in a new relationship, youre learning all about another person. You have to open up and show vulnerability, while accepting the same from them with kindness and compassion. Its a whole new, scary world.
6. You soften.
A relationship can also change you for the better. When youre completely accepted by another person, and loved by that person regardless, it allows you the freedom to be exactly who you are.
You can be kind, tender and vulnerable without any fear; youre full of joy, and you want to share it. This new attitude can affect your interactions with the world in a positive way.
7. Your attitude toward life shifts.
It might be a subtle change, or it might be dramatic. Either way, its definitely not exactly the same as it was before your SO entered your life.
Maybe they made you realize that you want things you never knew you needed until they came along. Maybe your general attitude is more positive, or maybe you started placing more importance on your relationships with others that you care about.
There are a myriad of possibilities.
8. You have to consider the needs of a partner.
Before it was all about you, you, you. Now, its about the two of you.
Youre still independent beings, obviously, but there are going to be many decisions you have to make as a team. You can no longer do everything without thinking, you have to consider whats going to work best for theboth of you.
9. You cant make decisions without communicating with him.
You have to be considerate. Yeah, youre used to going out until whatever hour you want, or playing music into the wee hours of the morning. You buy what you want, when you want.
Now, you have someone you need to consult on home decor, someone who you should call if youre going to be out all night and someone who might not be able to sleep with music on.
Hopefully, you love them so much that youre excited to make all these compromises on their behalf.
10. You have to make sure you dont neglect your tribe.
These are the people who have been there for you before you met your SO. Its easy to get wrapped up in new, exciting love, but dont let your steadfast friendships suffer.
The most annoying thing in the world is a friend who disappears when theyre dating someone. Its going to take effort, but your friends should beworth it. Dont lose them.